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This wonderful experience of union that we are partaking of seems to find its verification for both of us in the experience of Reality. There is no necessary or possible validation for something of this nature, other than direct experience. It is so full. Such an encounter with truth, beauty and goodness leaves no questions of veracity. It is to be treasured, explored and most definitely shared.

I feel stronger, better and more able to love others, as a result of this union of ours. Perhaps these words are too sweeping and sound like I have become lost in this shared merging. Regardless, I know that I am clear and grounded in my everyday world and that I feel like a carrier of peace. I seem to be filled beyond filling with feelings of calm, joy and love. And most of all, I experience an abiding peace. I feel like this peace is something that is part of that which is real, but also that we have co-created it, brought it into the world of time and space, if you will.

I find it astonishing that something of this metaphysical nature can be so fully here in the physical, material world. In fact, it seems to flow into existence often, as we wrap around each other; as we come in close, closer physical contact. It causes a fascination within me to experience directly just how united mind, matter and spirit can be.

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My dearest,

I want to comment on your remark that “I hardly ever feel that I have compromised at all.  My self, my integrity, remains intact”. I agree. We don’t impinge on the sacrosanct nature of each of our separate and distinct personalities. We experience such amazing union, and yet remain totally ourselves, totally whole, with no part of that distinct individuality being altered, or crowded out or in any way threatened. In fact, it seems we celebrate the uniqueness that is each of us, while finding so much common ground.

I think the area that we first began to notice this clearly was in our sexual union. There is a palpable new existence, almost a third entity, a beingness which is the ‘us’…the place of melding and merging. It’s hard to say where one body begins and the other ends. And yet, the very experience of this union seems to take place, at least partially,  in each of our minds, where we are entirely our separate selves.

This almost magical blending that we experience together sexually happens in less than an instant; as soon as we bring our bodies in full contact, we can jump to that amazing plane/place. I know that it appears to be always new, and always better than ever before. Maybe it is the very present place that we share from, the very act of being truly present. It seems to allow a co-creative event horizon that is always new, startlingly intense and full of love and union and creativity.  I wanted to try to begin to describe it. I wanted to say some of the things it is. There are also things it is not, like fear, withholding, or in a time other than the present. Both lists can probably go on. I just wanted to begin the description of this most illusive experience.

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My dearest Kit,

I am so enjoying our ‘new life’ sleeping together every night at the Victoria house. We’ve had four wonderful years living together so fluidly and in flux…we have slept sometimes at ‘your house’ and sometimes at ‘mine’ and sometimes each in our own. It has suited  us and we have surely loved our togetherness and our aloneness. Whenever I share with women about our lifestyle, they say “you have the best of all possible worlds”. Yes it has been delicious! We have savored and treasured it all.

I don’t know why exactly we decided to experiment with this new idea, but it just seems to have grown the way most things with us come about. We have this wonderful natural way of talking and moving through life together, that is so profoundly moving to me, and yet so basic and simple. It is so free of conflict and yet so passionate! This is really what peace feels like, full of life and in the present, filled with such good will and love.

But back to our new experiment…it seems to have begun with the New Year. We decided to sleep together every night at the Victoria house. We also decided to reframe the descriptions and instead of saying ‘my or your place’, we will call them the Victoria place and the Foothill place…

It seems like such a small thing to change, and yet it has brought an incredible sense of happiness. You told me this morning you feel like we just got back from our honeymoon! Its true, there is a feeling of renewed closeness and such a deep sense of union. Yes, we always have that wonderful sense of union, but there is definitely some large inner shift that has taken place between us. Its amazing that something so seemingly insignificant could feel so large and exciting. We do well in any circumstance together, we’ve traveled extensively, beginning just four months after we joined, with that ten day trip to England, being continuously together. No matter what the situation, we always have that quality of deep delight, harmony, peace, passion. We are such an extraordinary match. What is this quality of union that is ever fresh and so deeply satisfying?

I look forward to it all, while wanting to be no where but in the present with you! The adventure continues…

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