There are several areas that are essential to our kind of relating.
The first is the deep and abiding understanding that the other personality in the relationship is just that, a complete and sacrosanct separate personality. There is no attempt to change, alter or in anyway impinge upon the inner uniqueness of the other. Rather, there is a rejoicing and honoring of the other.
It gives each of us the ability to be so free, so undefended. I feel totally supported by you, not wanting to change or alter who I am. You seem to rejoice in who I am. I know I rejoice in you. I find it delightful to be with someone who isn’t me, who is entirely unique, and yet shares my deepest meanings and values. I love the adventure of getting to know you as you share yourself so completely and openly. And it seems we can each develop even more fully with this wonderful supportive exchange.
If you are barefoot and dancing, and find out that somewhere on the floor there is even one thumbtack, it will greatly change your movement and inhibit your dancing. If there are no tacks to get pricked with, you can leap about in full joy. That’s how it is with us!
This form of unfettered, undefended beingness, brings one fully into presence. But I think that is the beginning of another blog posting.
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